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Emptiness. Let's reflect on this... as humans, we all have experienced it. That feeling inside of something missing... Sometimes misread as hunger making us overeat, drink, smoke, etc. Sometimes making us feel depressed or even anxious, with this sense that something is missing, something is not right or that we are not right.
But what is it? Many things, and all mostly related to our upbringing, our main carer(s), the healthy mirror we got or not, the nourishment (physical and emotional), and attachment issues we developed then. All this will lead us to make life choices that might not suit us or be healthy for us. All these are issues, behaviours and beliefs worth exploring, and understood in therapy, so you can ask yourself: Do I agree with this? And if not, maybe it’s time to choose something different?
Someone finds themselves in a job with no meaning, so when they pay the bills, for example, they feel no sense of purpose in doing so. Feel unhappy, wasting their lives with no passion or spark. Do you recognise it? Have you felt like that?
First of all, we have misinterpreted the word ‘emptiness’. The feeling of emptiness doesn't necessarily mean lack! It is our nature to fill up gaps and empty spaces, as it is in Nature. But we are doing it wrong!
In Nature, an empty ground or let's say an area that just had a fire and is all destroyed is seen by us as dead and/or empty. There is nothing there! We feel driven to bring things in to bring life back, to make it acceptable, pretty, etc. But the true reality is that empty ground doesn't need anything! Nature in itself has it all and, given time, within that burned soil there will be life restarting, and soon Nature will take over.
Yes, my dears, so will that 'empty space' of yours! The issue here is we have this expectation that we have to have a purpose, find happiness, be fulfilled, successful, etc and we forget the most important thing is to connect with our true nature: Soul!
Soul has it all! All the potential for healing, happiness, fulfilment, etc. And all we need is to invite it in to fill that space! Trust me, when you connect with your soul that is our essence you connect with the Divine in you. You will never be empty or alone and you will find the guidance you need to find the life you should be living for yourself.
What we see as empty is not empty at all, ever. Look at a black hole. It looks like pure emptiness but we know it is everything.
We are exactly that. We are nothing, with the inner potential of becoming anything and everything! This understanding and consciousness is called by Buddhists ‘Enlightenment’. I am no Buddhist and I don't meditate for hours on end sitting under a cherry tree but I have experienced it, similar to the experience of near-death for some, and this was indeed the purest, most beautiful experience/consciousness I have ever encounter.
So when you feel that emptiness, don't try to fill it up. Let it be, stay with the feeling `— even the pain in silence — and go within, go as deep as you can go and invite soul, invite the spirit, invite guidance. Sooner or later it will come and you will create! You will create solutions and you will find the answers to your questions.
We are living in an era where society has been fighting boredom within childhood and I believe this is having some consequences to all the new generations after the ones like me who had to cope with being bored alone!
You see, a child these days says he is bored and he is given a game to play, a class to go to, a film, a mobile, etc. In my time we had to invent, create a way to entertain ourselves with anything or nothing, sometimes by even creating imaginary friends to play with.
Creativity is our connection with our Divinity! We dream it, imagine it and therefore create it. Just like the Divine created and creates everything. Let's not forget we have been created in its image. All artists know this and talk about the creative flow being like as the purest channel of Divinity: their true selves. One reason most artists don’t like their own creations is that they are all images of the creator (themselves) and we struggle with our reflection, due to all the issues we have with self-love and self-acceptance.
So next time you feel that emptiness, don't try to fill it up by doing things (or with things themselves). Instead, reflect on it, get help to explore it, go within and invite your true self — soul — to come and fill it and express itself as the wonderful being you are!
So today, as it is the first day of the year, it can be seen as an empty day to set intentions, to dream, to wish what will become a reality, your creation. Remember you create your reality based on your fears, beliefs and past experiences. You have a choice to change from fear to trust: you can check if your beliefs are yours and if they are healthy for you; you can look at your past experiences and choose to leave them in your past. By doing so you will be creating a new reality in your present life, surely a much more positive, healthy and happy life. One not based on achievements or life positions but based on a sense of self that will fill you up with great self-esteem and self-worth, from within.
Let's make this New Year a new start where we go back to basics and what really matters! I believe 2020 gave us the biggest opportunity of boredom and as a consequence, I am seeing so much creativity appearing in our community that I am hopeful this can be a great start. Let's not lose the momentum and instead let's carry on this wave of creative reinvention, unity, compassion, respect and love.
Namaste, Maria x
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